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how do you do it?

how and what is detachment in love? it means that you don’t need them to know that you are beautiful.

i know you didn’t ever feel safe or beautiful until you saw yourself reflected in their eyes. it was unbelievable when it happened. and they guided you to so many hidden parts of yourself that wanted healing. but now they’ve been gone long enough, and you’ve found that you could fall in love with yourself through (in) the unfolding of your own life.

remember that you are surrounded by people all day. it’s not only the most beautiful mirror that can tell you the truth or show you who you are. everyone is showing you to yourself, if you let them. you no longer need the one to be in love with you. you no longer need them to be in love with yourself.

“i love you” means: i want you to be happy. i want you to be free. all your parts are safe with me. and there’s nothing stopping you from extending this definition to yourself.

keep them in your heart forever, with gratitude, but now you’ve built an entire life that keeps you in love with yourself. you can let them come back and be loved by you. you can still build something together if that should happen. but you don’t need them for you to exist in love. and this is how you give yourself back to yourself. true love isn’t giving yourself away to the most deserving; it’s coming home.

trust that every time your heart breaks, you’ll get a new one.